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Summary: Great Book - Good Ideas to live by
Comment: I so enjoyed reading this book. Some of the material is a tad bit dated but the crux of the book is still timeless. ESPECIALLY the chapter about being lonely and learning to do things alone. Dr. Burns stated so succintly that if you can learn to be happy alone and not be afraid of being alone, you won't pick the wrong partner.
Lord knows I've stayed in relationships far past their expiration date because of the fear of loneliness. NO MORE. I'm totally OK with being single and I will never settle again. I'm too old to play that game anymore. My own company is darn fine and I'll continue to live a full life with friends and family until I meet the person I want to make a life with.
He also talks in this book about not being desperate and needy, something we can all relate to. By filling up your "spiritual tank" and being totally OK with you, then a partner is just a dessert.
This book really gave me a lot to think about and I've applied some of his tactics with great success. I'm a much happier single than I was a few months ago.
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Summary: Relationship 101
Comment: A good resource and easy read on basics of relationship development all the way to committed partnership.
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Summary: Awesome!
Comment: I found the book to be a practical and realistic remedy to the problem of successfully relating to members of the opposite sex and people in general. I would highly recommend this book for anyone who has suffered through degrading treatment from those they wished to connect with.
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Summary: Doesn't help you find a compatible mate
Comment: The book focuses on shallow aspects and should be helpful for folks who don't get themselves outside and their face to smile and say "Hello". Following his advice you will learn how to connect to shallow people, who care as much about clothes as you now are told to do. This "Intimate Connections" aren't really intimate at all, so if emotional, psychological or intellectual closeness is what you hope for, it's not in this book. (Again unless your emotion, psychology and intellect follow this book's simple prescription.)
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Summary: Good book with psychological background
Comment: This book is intended for shy and lonely individuals. It focuses on the psychological background of loneliness, shyness and how to make connections with other people. Other aspects of flirting and dating are mentioned (e.g. how to dress, how to initiate a conversation), but not after the reader is familiar with his often distorted thinking processes.
The message is clear: first, you have to really love and accept yourself. Then, you can proceed to getting to know other people more intimately. The book also deals with the not so pleasant aspects of relationships: rejections and fears. Lots of exercises show the reader how to deal with these and other problems.
By and large, a recommendable book!
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